When I am troubled with situations that I feel I want to control, I always turn them over to God. I know God is always in control, and we only suffer more when we try to "grab the wheel." If you ever find yourself in a situation where you think to yourself, "I just don't know what to do about this!", then recognize that you are trying to control it. If you want to try to help, pray for God's guidance and pray to serve God in the situation. He will answer your prayer. Jeremiah 13: 15-17 "Give ear, listen humbly, for the Lord speaks. Give Glory to the Lord your God, before it grows dark; Before your feet stumble on darkening mountains, before the light you look for turns to darkness, changes into black clouds. If you do not listen to this in your pride, I will weep in secret many tears; My eyes will run with tears for the Lord's flock, led away to exile." This is God's Word. 2 Corinthians 12 : 7-10 " I was given a thorn in the flesh, an angel of Satan to beat me and keep me from getting proud. Three times I begged the Lord that this might leave me. He said to me, "My grace is enough for you, for in weakness power reaches perfection." And so I willingly boast of my weaknesses instead, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I am content with weakness, with mistreatment, with distress, with persecutions and difficulties for the sake of Christ, for when I am powerless, it is then that I am strong." I heard a radio show that talked about this scripture; they said that it was never disclosed as to what Paul's "affliction" was. Only that God chose not to take it from him, so as to keep him realizing that without God, he amounted to nothing, but that thru God he could do ALL things. We only have to admit to God that we cannot make it without Him, that our lives are worthless without God as the master of our life. We cannot do this without God...we cannot even admit our weaknesses to God without completely surrendering to Him. But when we do surrender, and ask God to take control of ALL areas of our life, you can be GUARRENTEED that God will NOT abandon you. He promises this to us. The book of Jeremiah is excellent for seeing God's promise to deliver us and not abandon us. It is only our refusal to acknowledge and really trust God, that keeps us separated from Him. Jeremiah 2: 19 "Your own wickedness chastises you, your own infidelities punish you." (isn't that amazing?? God does not punish us...we do it to ourselves!) Jeremiah 1: 19 "for I am with you to deliver you, says the Lord." Jeremiah 4:: 1 "Return to me, says the Lord." Jeremiah 4: 18 " Your conduct, your misdeeds, have done this to you; how bitter is this disaster of yours, how it reaches to your very heart!" Jeremiah 8: 18 "My grief is incurable, my heart within me is faint." Jeremiah 15: 16 "When I found Your words, I devoured them; they became my joy and the happiness of my heart." Jeremiah 15: 19-21 " If you repent, so that I restore you, in My presence you shall stand; If you bring forth the precious without the vile, you shall be my mouthpiece. Then it shall be they who turn to you and you shall turn to them;" " I will free you from the hand of the wicked and rescue you from the grasp of the violent." Jeremiah 17: 14 " Heal me that I may be healed; save me that I may be saved, for it is You (Lord) whom I praise."